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I’m feeling somewhat out of sorts today. Well I have been for a few weeks, but I think today I’ve moved from Hyper, back down to low.

Basically, it’s part of a cycle I recognise, so I’m at least a little comfortable with it. Generally when my bipolar kicks in I get depressed, I may have to take time off work depending on how bad it is, I eventually pick up, but spike into Hyperness, then crash a little (where I am now) & then things generally even out. There are no time scales to this, but the more used to bipolar I become the shorter they seem to be.

¬†It’s not always so exact as this, but basically think of an elastic band stretched fairly tight. Twang it & it wobbles around until it evens out.
That’s kinda like what bipolar is for me, only in slow motion. Initially the downwards twang puts me in a depression, then I shoot up, like a bungee, into a hyper phase & then a few more downs & ups. It’s a very simplified way of how I see my phases, but I think it helps. The trick is to stop the initial downward movement. I’m getting there, but I haven’t perfected it yet…

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A Song by…

This song reminds me of sitting on a Goan beach, bottle of Kingfisher in hand, watching the waves with my wife & I putting the world to rights!

It was played by the beach shacks we frequented & I heard it on the radio earlier today. It took me right back… Thankfully, because my mood has been somewhat crappy today

“My hands are up Nelly!!” Corny I know, but true.

 

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Nothing to Say

I can’ think of anything to write so I thought I’d do what a fellow blogger often does & start my fingers at the keys & see where they take me. It might at least boost my stats today which are miserably poor. Yes I know, the violins are playing…

I’m seeking a sneaky stat attack here, so if you like my blog click like or leave a comment. Both would be a huge boost to my ego… Oh come on, give me a break & stop rolling your eyes, I do have a “Sneakyfucker” award to my name.

My cat Saffie has just jumped onto my lap, so at least I’m feeling the love from someone. Errr don’t take that the wrong way…

Oh bugger it, I really do have nothing to write, so I’ll sign off with a song.

Let me know which face from the video is your favourite? Mine is the baby in black white, although it’s eyes are kinda demonic ūüôā

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I like these types of commercials. They’re close to my ‚ô•

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Can’t Touch This

I heard this on the radio today. I’d forgotten how good & stupendously hilarious it is. Those pants have a life of their own!!!

Hmmm, do I mention my radio too much, when I drop songs?

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There’s still a lot of it out there, but thanks to¬†TV¬†adverts like this, hopefully it’s changing!

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I’ve reblogged this post from Sarah at Bi[polar] Curious. She has a really useful blog for people who have bipolar or just want to understand it better. There is always something new to learn, as she keeps abreast of a lot of new information out there.

Check her blog out & the post I’ve pasted below.

The Buddy System

by Sarah @ bi[polar] curious

I am stubborn.

No, it’s alright. I know I am. I often feel like,¬†why get help with something that I could ultimately fix myself?¬†

Because fixing something myself means feeling good. For me anyway. I can give myself a teeny little pat on the back, maybe dance around for a minute, but then all of my hard work has been traded for a fleeting few moments of joy before it dissipates out into the cosmos.

Is it worth it? 

This is something I’ve been considering a lot lately… and I think this is a big factor for a lot of people who aren’t willing to seek help for treatment. There is a lot of fear around the idea of asking someone for help.

Fear of rejection
Fear of abandonment
Fear of looking weak
Fear of confrontation upon disagreement

And the list goes on.

I went to 6 12 step meetings a few months ago. Though I am not technically an addict, my life has been greatly affected by addicts on more than one occasion. They request that you attend 6 meetings before making a final decision about moving on with the program.

Ultimately, my decision was to stop after 6. There were things I disagreed with, but things I really loved as well, but the final decision was made when I couldn’t seem to focus on anything long enough to be of benefit because bipolar disorder kept rearing its ugly head and distracting me. As I mentioned in my recent¬†post, I have a genuinely hard time taking my focus off of bipolar disorder and putting it on something else without the bipolar element rearing its ugly head and bringing the whole thing down. Without any help from medication, wrestling with bipolar disorder consumes me.

Anyway, the thing I liked the most about these 12 step programs is the idea of having a sponsor.

A sponsor is someone you like and get along with who has been through a similar struggle as you, and is able to help guide someone through the process of recovery.

Well,¬†I’m the sort of person who loves patterns, and I quickly identified that in the grand scheme of things or in another setting, a sponsor might be a mentor if they were helping with your career or non-profit work, this person might be your therapist if you are seeking professional help for various reasons, this person might simply be a friend who has already had two kids when you’re having your first one.

What do they all have in common? This person is someone you go to when you have questions about a specific part of your life. When you want to bounce ideas off of someone. Someone that allows you to talk about specific things because they have a genuine interest in something similar.

What I’m suggesting here is¬†the buddy system.¬†

I know I said earlier that it is difficult for me to ask for help. I have gotten better at it, but what has changed is knowing¬†who¬†to talk to. It is difficult for me to talk to someone about my feelings if I don’t know how they’re going to react, there are times when that fear can be extremely overwhelming.

When I started going to a local support group, I found the overall experience helpful, but like the 12 step program I attended, I didn’t have anyone to bounce the ideas I got from the group off of. Luckily, one of the attendees who was in my age range latched onto me about as quickly as I latched onto her, and I discovered the secret, amazing world of having a bipolar buddy.

We’re not just buddies anymore, we’re really good friends too. When I was hospitalized last year for a big episode of depression, I was terrified to tell anyone where I was. I knew, though, that she would understand. She did, and brought me an assortment of rockin’ magazines and art supplies.

Therapists also make good buddies, and though you’re very unlikely to go out for drinks with them afterwards, if you are buddy-less and can afford to see one on a regular basis, I think therapists can be amazing when it comes to supporting people in their search of knowledge and understanding.

You can meet other bipolar people at support groups, you can start a social group for bipolar people in your area on meetup.com (or there might already be one!). You can have a bipolar pen-pal, which is a great type of buddy because you can email them any time, 24 hours a day.

We’re all on the same team here, so I think it is a wonderful idea to watch each other’s backs. Some people don’t have a willing ear to listen, and I don’t know about you but I have¬†two¬†ears so I try to listen whenever I can. In the process, I almost¬†always¬†learn something about myself, too!

Before you run out and grab yourself a bipolar buddy, here are a few things you may want to think about first:

  1. It is probably best to have a buddy who is actively seeking treatment, and interested in learning more about themselves and what they experience.Obviously, if your buddy is a therapist you are safe on that end, but it can be dangerous to take on buddies who are in a current self-destructive mode. That self-destruction could potentially launch us into “saving mode”, and the point is not to¬†save others.¬†If you are a licensed mental health professional, by all means have at it, but otherwise it would be safer all around to have a buddy who is in the realm of at least stable-ish.
  2. Some people don’t mesh well, and that is natural.¬†There are certain people I “click” with right away, and others I’ve tried to be friends with but just can’t seem to get in the groove. I would suggest not forcing it, when you find the right person, you will probably know it right away. Also, if the other person is of the opposite gender, you may want to ask their intentions (platonic? romantic?) before moving forward to make sure they align with your own intentions.
  3. Think about what level of commitment you feel comfortable with. Just email? Talking on the phone? Meeting in person? Sometimes that level of commitment is flexible depending on how comfortable you feel with the other person, and that is ok too.
  4. Know your buddy’s emergency plan.¬†In the event that your buddy has a big episode, have a plan made ahead of time so you will know what to do. It is unfortunate, but a realistic possibility that emergencies pop up, but if your buddy also knows your emergency plan they can be equally as helpful in the event that you experience a big episode as well.
  5. Put the mask on yourself before putting it on someone else.¬†I know this is a recurring theme in this blog, but it is important to remember that as a bipolar individual, you have specific needs in order to help keep yourself stable. Sometimes that means taking a day or two to respond to an email, or saying no when plans are requested, but¬†that is ok.¬†It is extremely important to take care of yourself first (because you’re the only one who is going to do it!) and it is very likely that your buddy will know exactly where you’re coming from (because they’ve probably been there too!).

Buddies come in all shapes and sizes, and they might share similar backgrounds, similar mindsets, similar ages, or similar symptoms as you. Having someone to bounce ideas off of, or even just talk with periodically can be extremely helpful -especially if you are between therapists.

So shake off the isolation!¬†Spend some time with someone who’s communication barriers are down. Practice talking about what you experience in an open way, because a little practice can open the door to talking openly in other areas of your life as well!

Sarah @ bi[polar] curious | April 25, 2012 at 9:00 am | Tags: anxiety, Bipolar, empathy, group therapy, Health, mental health, mental illness, relationships, social situations, therapy | Categories: Bipolar | URL: http://wp.me/p1Urf6-hV

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